Lovin’Solitude

There’s this fear amoung all of us, the fear of being lonely or the fear of loneliness. But I get amused by this thought and end up questioning myself, as to why do hate our own company so much? Why or what is the need to always be looking into something, someone to amuse ourselves? Author Paulo Coelho said it once and you must know this and remember this! Blessed are those who do not fear solitude, who are not afraid of their own company, who are not always desperately looking for something to do, something to amuse themselves with, something to judge.
At the beginning of realising solitude everything feels unbearable. The single thought that at some point in life you had someone to talk , to count on them, this thought breaks your heart even more. When you realise that you had someone once who promised you they’ll be there for you no matter what; have left you alone in this ride of life. And because you’re now all by yourself, all by your own, learn to hug your solitude! The person who said that they’d be forever with you, promised way more than what they were willing to give at the end. Because now, they are the reason why you don’t let people in… to avoid this type of hurt. The type of hurt that comes from the ones who swore they’d never ever hurt you, from the ones who you loved the most and held the closest to your heart. From the ones you trusted the most, the ones who repeatedly told you that you meant the world to them, though now you have to quietly watch how they slowly replace you. Let me remind you something you were born as an individual and you don’t need anyone to define yourself. Learn to love every part of you that you once rejected. Your so called “flaws”, your “weirdness”, the reasons why the people you let in your heart leave you… embrace those, because when the one who’ll be here to stay comes along, they’ll love you for them. And they’ll never make you change for worse.
Learn to love yourself in every way, so that when the next person comes along… you’ll show them how they should love you properly. This solitude that seems suppressing in the beginning actually turns out to be your biggest power. When you learn to be by yourself you learn to actually be you! See this loneliness as your power. No one litrerally no one stays forever. We all go back to the early existences we came from…..

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